In this structure, subjective experience is bound to and constrained by social law or normativity. Therefore, personal decisions overly reference social conventions, rules and expectations. Since one believes that there is a clear response path to life's questions, the type of suffering usually associated with this the overly normative structure is undue guilt, anxiety and concerns about doing the right thing.
The non-conventional experience is birthed from a person's attempt to anchor himself or herself within a structure that has little to no reference to what most others call "normativity" or "conventionality." Contrary to popular belief, this so-called non-conformity is not choiceful. While the person is aware of guiding social constraints and laws — often acutely so — these conventions are experienced as arbitrary and often times self-serving. Therefore, non-normative individuals experience their existence within society as precarious as they struggle to constantly create some place of refuge within this uncertainty.
"Technically," I'm supposed to be at work today. But, I've worked overtime lately so I'll call in sick. After all, I deserve it.
Within this structure, a person's psychological experience is bound to, but not constrained by social law or so-called conventionality. In fact, the strategy is to be close to normativity without getting stuck in it or trapped by it. Often times the un-conventional person sets themselves up as the exception to the rule, law or social constraint.
Language structures our very existence. Imagine trying to convey to someone your subjective experience of hunger without any of the words, forms of speech, or euphemisms related to the concept of hunger. Now, imagine that your difficulty communicating your hunger is not solely due to the fact that you do not have access to the words for hunger but that you have no concept of hunger!
You feel hunger, but you have no way of knowing what this strange bodily sensation is or means. Under these circumstances, we might expect that you would experience this sensation as completely foreign, alien, strange and even terrifying. You might even create an explanation to account for your experience, but it would be an explanation devoid of any reference to "hunger" in the conventional sense. Possible explanations might be, “My stomach is disintegrating,” or “I've been poisoned,” or "I'm possessed." Clinical experience suggests this is exactly what happens at the origin of many chronic and severe forms mental illness. A fundamental concept necessary for life's successful navigation is excluded from the person's subjective psychology, which leaves them catastrophically unmoored.
In order to restore a subjective sense of grounding, our highly specialized clinicians aid each patient in engaging, inhabiting, and developing a distinct discourse that allows them to supplement this all important concept that was once foreclosed from their minds. Our clinical goal is to help individuals supplement what is fundamentally missing in their subjectivity so that they may construct a life of their choosing.